My W has told me that she is not after him for the money, but that she is worried that others might view it as such.
I think now is a good time to ask her for the house key along with splitting our checking account and vehicles. I dont care if she gets mad and it causes her feeling to move more towards the OM. The more she moves towards living permanently with OM just means that I will have less possibility of paying spousal support if this ends in a D. I want the final D papers to show no spousal support, because even if you have a little spousal support, it can be changed in the future if W were to fall on hard times. If there is no spousal support, she cant add it on after the D is final.
We have 3 more Saturdays of parenting classes before we can get a D finalized. During that time, I will try to find a realtor to get a fair market value on the house so I have a better figure for splitting the increase in value on the house.
Even though most my friends and family would like our M to be saved, it is quotes like this from my brother's email last night that really puts some of my inner feelings in perspective:
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There are truly good women out there that treat their men with respect. I think you deserve someone better than W will ever be.
The hard part is that I am not really ready to throw in the towel as I so very much miss the good times we had as a family. I still feel like I owe it to my children to not give up just yet. But I have my doubts of whether we can rebuild our M. Her contracting genital herpes from a one night bar stand and staying in an A are making it hard for me to see our M making it.
Fortunately, I found out a couple of days ago from a blood test that I am STD free!
