I'm a big fan of the Beatles and I think that "All you need is love" is a great song. I've never felt a stronger and deeper love for my W than I do right now.
A quick synopsis goes like this: 09/16/2007: I was gone for the weekend and came home to get the talk. She needed some time to figure herself out as she wasn't happy. This had happened once before in early July of the same year and that lasted a couple days. I figured that this would be something similar. I also believed that this was all her and that I didn't have any issues that I needed to work out. Little did I know.
10/13/2007: She wasn't getting the space or time that she needed while she was at her parents, so I encouraged her to get out on her own. Up until this point we still talked regularly and she had made reference to coming home.
10/16/2007 - 11/16/2007: This was the dark period. I didn't really contact her and she barely contacted me. Pretty much the only contact was a 10 minute phone call once a week.
11/17/2007: During one of the 10 minute conversations I had asked her if I could take her out for dinner for her birthday. She called in the early evening and asked if the offer still stood. This began the period of more contact and actual R conversation.
Thanksgiving Day: Got invited to her apartment for the first time and we ended up having a 2 hour R talk. Nothing was resolved, but I did get to understand her position better and started to see the failings of the R from her point of view.
Thanksgiving - 2/4/2008: This was a most confusing time. We would have a week or two of constant contact and hanging out and then she would retreat for a week or two. I tried to just go with the flow during this period and not push her for more than she was ready for. This time included her spending much more time at the house and even spending the night on the couch a few times.
2/7/2008: She invites me up to her place for the evening and I end up spending the night with her in her bed.
2/11/2008: She wants to quit her job and move back home.
After that, we started talking about each other wants and needs in a R. She started to move her stuff back home and about a week later she stays at the house all the time. She told OM (EA) last weekend that she can't talk to him anymore. She still has some stuff to move back in, but 90% of it is back. She has her apartment for one more month, but she doesn't plan on being there at all. Things have been going really well. Tomorrow is the last day at her job. This has been a big stress in her life and I encouraged her to quit. We're both committed to making things different and realize that it will take work to make it last long term. Our physical relationship has also heated back up. This has all taken some adjustment as I got used to living alone, but I welcome the changes and relish in her companionship.
So, I'm new to piecing, but not new to the threads. I'm always open to advice and/or criticism.
Peace to all, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
