Ok I am not going to call about the helmet. I really did want to ask him about his arm but I will let that one go also. If he wanted me to know he would have told me.
Exactly, he would call...however, I do think he wanted you to know by telling your friend.
As far as the I guess dating thing, I'd say that's your decision. However, I decided a longggg time ago, that I would not. Some reasons: 1) I love my wife, simple, I really do not want anyone else. 2) in reading, hope for the separated, something that stuck out...would you do it if you were not separated? This thought sticks out to me in your comment "ask my H for permission". And those are all the reasons I need. Honestly, I just need #1...I do not want anyone else, I love her unconditionally.
However, it does, I suppose, bear mentioning that some do date, dance, go out with another, etc...and have no problem with it. It does show you are moving on, etc...and for some people that gets a reaction from their spouse. I guess you can say it is just not me and I don't want this issue.
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I just feel like I am cheating if I call.
I know that feeling and I am way worse. I didn't enroll in a dance class because I feel like I cannot dance close to another.
Having said all that, your post makes it sound like if he won't come back in some time frame then I should go out. Not being ugly, but that doesn't make sense to me...like if I get a D I will buy this real nice expensive ____. What do you want? Do you want H or do you want something else...I ask because that's the way your post reads to me. Some people go out just to have a good time and have no problem separating harmless fun from their R/M. Some I suppose do more. I just do not want any part of it. I view it as moving on. I don't want that. Furthermore, if the day comes where their is absolutely no chance for me, I would still need more time to heal myself before even attempting another R. Also, something to keep in mind...you absolutely do not have to decide squat today. Just table it for awhile.
