Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[SirPrizeMe]

Tell him that if he really wants to move out, he'll have to get a job.
Actually, he doesn't have to get a job. "You have to get a job" sounds like a controlling statement to me. In my opinion he ought to get a job, but he doesn't have to. But I agree that his feelings must not drive you into financial disaster.

On the other hand, LMG, you may have to face it that some tough changes are coming for you. You may have to sell the house, downsize, get a bettter job for yourself. With his benefits running out, and him not looking particularly excited about supporting you in the future, what are your options?

You have to think of yourself now. You may have to be more self-reliant, financially speaking, for a while. Do you have a plan for this? it may hurt, but it looks like it is what is necessary. You may have to take charge of yourself.

Decide if you think that airing a conflict over money is a good thing right now for your relationship. It may be, it may not be.