I cannot say what someone else should really do I can only say based on what I went thru.

I left the door open whereas H could come home any time he wished. He had a key, still does, etc.

I wanted him to know that this was still his home, a place he could eventually come back to.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19