It's very easy to get upset thinking about the "reasoning" behind things. Fact is they don't see it like we do (right now?) and you'll drive yourself nuts trying to figure it out, or even worse trying to convince her.
The ups and downs are very rough. Each day could bring a glimmer of hope or a crushing setback, and these are most likely only perceptions of ours anyway. Very scary ride but we'll make it through. Hang in there and vent on the board all you need!
