WAW's PA over, but still wants Divorce

[Hope4us]

Thanks Try, My vows are the reason I'm sticking with it. I know it's not very DB, but in one of our discussions I said to WAW "I don't remember my vows being, I promise to love, honor and cherish you forsaking all others, until something better comes along".

I know that didn't sit well with WAW, and the OM is DEFINITELY not better, but in her f'd up mind, he is.

I truly understand what she's going through, but it's just so painful for everyone involved. I've told her I understand how it can happen and how difficult it'll be for her to go through letting the OM go (the affair is over as best I can tell), but she won't talk to me about it (or anything else for that matter) period. She's distanced herself from all her friends that have told her she's f'd up and now only gets support from some twit at work (who is mid-20's and no kids) who married her husband 66 days after meeting him and then filed for divorce one week past their one year anniversary. This twit is now "in love" with someone new only a couple months after filing for divorce from her husband. And this is the "person" who WAW is getting martial advise from. How can a 47 y.o. woman with 2 kids take advise from that?

I don't know. Sometimes these last 4 weeks I see signs of WAW responding to me, but then something happened between last Wed night (when she actually said good night to me for the first time in 6 months) and Thurs morning. Prior to Thurs there were little things happening that showed me some glimmer of hope and then since Thurs she's reverted back to not saying hardly anything to me. I'm wondering if Thurs at work she contacted OM again and he blew her off (he's trying to save his marriage and admitted to his wife that it was a mistake and will do anything she wants so she doesn't divorce him) so now she's mad at me again for screwing that up?

I guess I'll just keep plugging along and detaching and see where it goes.