I second what Piglet said ... how awful to be sick and get that phone call. How totally inconsiderate of your H not to help you when you were sick, too.
I know you're upset about the possible move to CA, but who knows if that will happen. Others have mentioned that in some states, if both parents don't agree to such a separation that the courts won't allow it. I'm sure OW's H doesn't want his kids to go so far away (unless he fights for custody).
I think if that did happen, reality would come crashing down on him fast. It takes a lot more time and $$ to raise 4 kids than it does 1. The independence and fun lifestyle he wants will be nonexistent.
Interesting that OW has told her H about all these plans, yet you have heard nothing from your H. I'd be thinking about not sharing what you know with him, but using it to protect yourself (i.e. going back to see a lawyer).
