Thanks for your advice. I started reading some of your story. I still have lots to read though...so I don't know how things are for you currently. I truly hope that I am lucky enough as some people here and have an opportunity to work on things with my husband again.
I don't believe in divorce like you and feel even more strongly since we have a 4 year old son together and I have a 7 year year relationship with his daughter (she's 11).
I don't think I would be able to DB if I hadn't taken my own space and time for 5 months. Although i never had an affair, I did stay at my friends house for 3 out of 7 days a weeks and went out alot. It took awhile for me to get that I was part of the problem. I don't think my H even knows about DB but his natural style was that way with me while I was going through that. He didn't argue with me, never questioned me...other than maybe twice. Never pushed or pulled at me...just showed sincere care and concern. Made it clear that he wanted to work on things but never made me feel like I was the bad one....In the beginning he did resist more.
I remember wishing that he would fight more...but I don't know what that would of done, because I truly felt that I had no emotion for him and that it would never come back...eventually I came back around on my own and I still pray that it isnt to late. We all know about the OW now!!!! The whole time he never took his wedding rings off...I did and he never said anything to me.....Since the OW became out in the open, he has taken off his ring...CRUSH to me!!!!!!
I am going to really try as we did have something very special. I can see some changes since i have been DBing and I am just going to stay positive and keep talking with everyone here. It has helped me so much.
M 37 H 37 Married 2yrs (together 7yrs) Son 4yrs old and H has Daughter 11 yrs old H involved with OW since Jan 08 and still seeing OW Still under same roof, but H spending more time with OW as time goes on
