Thank you guys! I too fear that making him jealous will give him the green light to begin to take the flirting to a new level, but I was surprised to find that M thought it wasn't all that bad of an idea to make him think that something was up.
Brantacan,
I began to realize a few months ago the pain and anger that the LBS feels toward the WAS. I am beginning to wonder if I can forgive my husband for all the cruel things he has said to me and about me or all the things he has done to me, particularly behind my back. I never did any of these things, but he feels the need to be especially cruel and seems to have misplaced or broke his moral compass. Maybe I should put up some flyers in the neighborhood...lost, Husbands moral compass. Nevertheless, I did hurt him first. And afterall what am I doing all this work for just to go back to old patterns of unforgiveness. It is something I will have to do.
This process definitely takes patience. Just keep hope. Keep an open mind and heart. Regardless of the path of your sitch I would hate to see the anger get to you. Part of why my marriage is where it is now is because I could not forgive my parents for my childhood and I could not forgive my husband for his mistakes. Anger is an emotional burden we can't afford. Keep in mind that sometimes, such as in my case, you can go with months without change and as suddenly as your sitch went bad it can take a turn for the best.
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
