Our R talks actually helped rather than hindered. It's then that she usually asks what's wrong with herself. In between she concentrates on the negative and can't see having anything but our old R. She says whenever she thinks about it she feels trapped.
We talked about ways she would feel more comfortable being here and her not needing to move out. It was at that point that she said she needed to talk to a professional. She said she wanted to see C several times before talking with me again.
She's being super reactive and is all over the place. I think the best 180 I could do is detach - we've been too close lately. She needs to work through her emotional attachment with OM before she'll be able to see any sort of connection with me.
Sorry to hear you're in a negative space right now. I know it's hard. lodo
