"...cagz, Can I make a suggestion. Take this thought: "I NEED to let it all go and go on with my life. He is gone." And turn it into this: "I NEED to let it all go and go on with my life." You take a statement with a negative connotation and turn it into one with a positive one. Give it a try. IMP"
for me - " I WANT to let it all go and go on with my life" - is even more powerful"
me, h - 40+ m-20+ s, d, ss - 20+ s, ow, pa since 04.2007 h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008 h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1
Today I want to move forward with my life. Today I want a new dream to begin within me. Today I want for my children to see a woman who has survived. Today I want to grow.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Today I want to move forward with my life. Today I want a new dream to begin within me. Today I want for my children to see a woman who has survived. Today I want to grow.
What, you don't want to stop world hunger or promote world peace while you are at it?
One bite at a time, Cagz, one bite at a time. Not that those aren't awesome goals...they are. Just don't overwhelm yourself. And before Betsey asks you, because she will...
How about we break those goals down? You said, "I want to move forward with my life." What are 3 things that will say "Cagzmom is moving on?" How about we make some mini goals?
For example, today my son called me on my control freakishness. He pointed out that I always pull the mail out of his hands when we pull up in the direction that he needs to get it out of the box. He also said that I never give him the house keys, instead, I will leave him standing on the porch til I walk up.
So, one of my mini goals may be:
I will remember to let me son look through the mail first, even if I know none of it is for him anyway!
Today I want to grow.. so I am going to go to the group session thing my C suggested tommorrow night. By admitting that I have an issue (extremememmememememely co-deoendent) AND LEARNING that this does not define me I may just may be able to grow beyond this.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
HA! Baby, this aint nothin' compared to what Mer and Bets used to do to me!!!
Welcome to the club, biatch! We only take the finest members...
Awesome goal by the way...can't wait to get the report on what you got out of the session.
Oh, and of course, you do reserve the right to tell me that I'm full of it. But I hope you don't. I hope you know I have your back and am only gently pushing you on your forward journey....
i feel the push and it is gentle and ok - ok biatch!!??
so glad to know I am among the elite!! =)
dont know how many of the sessions i will be able to go to...being single parent - and other people have a life- well it makes it a bit difficult to find someone to be with d11.
i called 4 peeps tonight. One gal has a life (senior in high school) another mom - has a life - 2 gals with softball. another mom can do every other - has a life but mine works in. ha! and lastly my closest friend doesn't feel safe with her 13 year old duaghter at my apartment to babysit...needless to say i feel like i am "living in a trailer down by the river..." (chris farley saturday night live..my sister and i use it as our term when we feel very very hmmm lowly.)
Needless to say that didn't help the ole' self esteem. I know her heart - but good grief!! I think one GREAT thing about going through this is i have realized just how terrible I HAVE made people feel in life and WOW what a B** I could be. Dont want to do that anymore!!!!! AND I WONT!! THAT WILL BE CHANGE #4440400444000 among the other billion that have happened to me in the past year!
GOOD GRIEF! HOW MUCH CHANGE can one person take. Oy oy oy...
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
