Karen, I want to see your H stay home and be a full-time parent, as well as a home-schooler to children with disabilities. Joie
Thanks, Joie! Yes, H has never given me credit for that, and in fact thinks less of me for that I think which isn't right! I don't believe he ever has understood the value of that, even before his affair started, maybe part of our problems.
I'm also thinking that instead of putting the majority of the blame of the marriage problems on myself for my depression, probably a good part of the depression was helped by H's name-calling of me and making me feel poorly about myself. I need to work on boosting my self-confidence so that doesn't happen again, but I also think I need to stop blaming myself for all or most of the marriage problems too.
I did enjoy last night when H got home, he was quizzing me about the money I spent (as I've said before H is cheap with us although he calls it "frugal") I wound up spending the $40 he had left me when he went on the trip and I told him I had spent most of it when I had gone out on Sat. night with "friends" really a girlfriend and a married couple of course, but I didn't tell H that, and then later that night out of the blue he asked, Well where did you go Sat. night and spend my money? So I told him the name of the restaurant and the bar (they are nice places). And H said "Well, I don't want any details!" And then I said, And it would have been even more expensive if somebody hadn't bought me a drink at the bar! (Really just the husband had bought a round of drinks for everyone but I didn't tell him that!) Karen
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