The mistress has more than I can offer

[Starshyne]

Well for me things weren't as dramatic as saffie. And these things just happened recently, so who knows what could happen next.

H told me about the OW after I had 2 weeks of finding information that didn't add up. After he told me he more or less moved in with her for 2-3 weeks, but would come home and shower, eat his lunch, do his laundry, etc. He was having the best of both worlds. I got to a point where I had it and told him he had to choose one or the other. He chose her and packed up his things and I made him give me the keys to the house. It was a very intense night. Then at midnight he comes knocking on the door and said he has changed his mind. He wants to be with me and work on things and he eneded it with the OW. Mistake on my part looking back now, but I let him back in. After 2 days, he was back at it...living with her but coming home now and then.

He kept telling me he was going to end it with her, but never really did. I felt too weak to make him chose again. Everyone kept telling me that I had to do it, but I emotionally couldn't handle it. I had already did it once, didn't I? Well one night he wasn't here, and I called him and told him that was it. Come get your stuff and leave for good. I was done with the game of ping pong. He sort of freaked out on me and came home and has slept at home every night since.

Now...ending it with the OW for good was different. He was/is highly addicted to her. While he wasn't seeing her any longer, he was still talking to her and trying to contact her as much as possible. She is the one who actually ended it with him. He was living with his wife and not her and she was tired of the games as much as I was, so she ended it.

I am not sure if that helps you any at all. And who knows...my H could go back to her again.

Sara