TRYING to enjoy the quietness

[kissak]

Actually Grace...we are open and honest about the kids. That is the ONLY thing we do talk about comfortably. I believe he feels pressure on him because he knows I am standing for my marriage. At times when he was with the OW, actually there wasnt as much tension there. I feel like if he would make a decision, either way, alot of the tension would be gone. I have told him I dont have any expectations from him except to respect me and take care of the kids, so I dont know what else to do to relieve it. I think the tension comes mostly from him and reflects back from me. If he is uncomfortable, so am I. If he isnt talking, I feel uncomfortable doing it.

Oh, why cant we just kiss and make up!!??!!

Its like he would feel better if I was to say "youre right, this isnt going to work out" and I would feel better if he would say "this will work, just give me time".

So how do we compromise?? Neither one of us can agree on this.

The thing is I blew up at him a week ago before he saw the counselor. He made me so mad I was ready to say "its over" I even threatened him by saying I was going to tell his exOW somethings I said I wouldnt. I didnt tell, but he feels like I would If I got mad enough. I do feel bad by saying that i would tell. Anger is getting the best of me lately. Working on it though. Trying to see the triggers and why its happening.

I did apologize again this morning for being angry with him yesterday. He said he understood, everyone has bad days and it sounded like I was having one.

Anyone know any magic spells...

IMP!! I must have missed the patience you sent this way. I am on the coast of NC...Try again! go a little more east this time!! Someone else said they needed some...they must have gotten it before me!!