The tough thing is to show her a great person and marriage that answers all the initial reasons for her leaving when they are so resistant to see it, they probably don't even want it or care. I can do it "for me", and that makes it a true change, but of course we're going to hopeful that this leads to reconciliation. So many of the changes we're making are centered around the family and not just ourselves.
There's a big step between them having had enough and wanting to move on, and wanting to try again with the same person who is now changed and answers all the initial problems. That's the breakthrough everyone is searching for here. How do we define that crucial step in all of this? It seems to be the key.
I would hope that the links between people (kids, family, friends, home, ...) might be enough to make trying again the best option, but I think the fear of going back, giving up on a decision to quit that was so hard to make, and how they might look to everyone now could be a big obstacle when they start to have doubts about leaving.
Me:37 WAW:35 M:10 T:15 Ds:9, 5 She Dropped Bomb:9/02/07 Both still at home
