Karen, I want to see your H stay home and be a full-time parent, as well as a home-schooler to children with disabilities. That is MORE than a full-time job and most people COULD NOT do it! In fact, I really am in awe because I'm not sure I could do it! Sorry, but what an a$$. You may be right about him saying those things just to make himself feel better.
I read in the other thread that your H thinks your kids should now go to public school... I'd fight him on that, too. Not only is he ditching you, he wants to do the same to them.