Even if he understands why you blew up an apology is still in order. It just the thing to do. Part of that whole "do no harm" thing.
~ swl
and today Imp is being a pain in MY neck!
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
The patience waves are being sent your way. Be careful. There are other Dbers in NC who may try to intercept!
I will not let them!!
and I think the apology is best too...I was very short with him earlier today and I texted him to say sorry. He didnt say anything back about it.
I feel lately like there is so much hurt between us that it will take a while to overcome it all. I think that is part of the reason I am being so easily tempted to blow up lately.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Well look at you all pulling yourself back up. I am liking what I see, girl.
Remember, everyone takes steps back. As long as you then make forward progress, its all good.
*hugs* ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
I feel lately like there is so much hurt between us that it will take a while to overcome it all. I think that is part of the reason I am being so easily tempted to blow up lately.
Very good, kissak. Sounds to me like you have done the necessary learning for the day. You know the problem. Now you can practice the patience needed when the urge to blow hits.
Why is there sooo much tension between my H and me? I dont like it...he doesnt like it...we both want it gone! How do we make that happen, other than time?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
You can only make it(tension) gone for you. What has worked best for me is to be honest (not in a brutal sort of way) and address things as they come up. I guess you could say it's a form of detachment. However he feels, (if he's willing to speak to it) I'll acknowledge, otherwise, my focus is not on him.
Thanks Grace...but actually we are both asking each other the same thing. He even just texted me and asked ME how do we make it go away....Time is all I can come up with too...BUT WE BOTH want it gone now.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Then how would you both be behaving towards each other if it were gone? Should it be gone? It's there b/c of unresolved stuff. If it's just gone, does that make it too easy to seep everything under the rug? Would open and honest communication be helpful? I don't mean about your M/R, but about raising the kids etc.
