"...cagz,
Can I make a suggestion.
Take this thought:
"I NEED to let it all go and go on with my life. He is gone."
And turn it into this:
"I NEED to let it all go and go on with my life."
You take a statement with a negative connotation and turn it into one with a positive one.
Give it a try.
IMP"

for me - " I WANT to let it all go and go on with my life" - is even more powerful"

me, h - 40+
m-20+
s, d, ss - 20+
s, ow, pa since 04.2007
h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008
h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1