W not angry any more and wants to work on the M

[Lanzo]

Hey Forrest,


I've been having a think about this forgiveness thing this weekend. I think I generated the discussion cos I wanted to know how to do forgiveness right cos I was scared of making the same mistakes of the past. But now that I've thought about it, its too soon to be thinking of forgiveness. What I need to do is to let all the hurt and pain in me heal itself naturally and that's gonna take some time, and when I get to that point I won't be thinking about forgiveness cos I won't be feeling or thinking about the hurt and pain anymore and forgiveness, well that could then be anything.

But in your words and for the benefit of anyone else reading if you could answer these next two points or complete the sentences I am about to start that would be a great help.

1)Fast forgiveness of your spouse after an A does not work because...

2)What you should aim to do so you can move forward is....

Thanks Lan