just a quick update for you all, still heard nothing from ex and can't say I want to, I still think he is going to regret his actions and what he as done to us both, but hey I have a date, it is with a guy who I was actually engaged to some 20 years ago, I have bumped into him a few times whilst I have been out over the last three years and he finally plucked up the courage to ask me out, I am not sure as you all are aware I have been to the cleaners and back with the ex, I have and still am extremely hurt by what he as done, so I have told this guy we can go for a drink and a laugh and see where it goes from there but to be careful with me as I am still fragile, also he understands that my main concern is my son and I don't want upsetting him as he as only just found happiness again, but we'll see how it goes