Sandi's Here in Piecing from Almost WAW

[Dom R]

Glad you feel comfortable enough in your marriage now, to post here, Sandi

In the terrible period that you went through, with the online stuff, and wanting attention and an ego-boost... were you unhappy with YOURSELF(and wanting to change yourself)... or were you unhappy with your ENVIRONMENT and companions (so you went to look for new ones)?

It seems like, for some reason, you want to label yourself as having an MLC. Thing is, though... MLCs are about being unhappy with yourself, and wanting to change yourself. Which doesnt seem to fit your situation. Rather, you just wanted to feel better about the way you are.

This may sound like i'm just nitpicking, but i'm not. The difference is important, to both yourself, and others.

To others: because if you describe what you went through as MLC, and tell others it was... they might misdiagnose themselves or someone else that way.

To yourself: because if you call what you went through MLC, then you might think, "well thank goodness that's over! I've had my MLC, i'm done with that!"
However... i dont think that is true for you.
I think you had a plain ordinary reaction to, "My marriage sucks, I want more for myself".
Which is understandable. I think that it's also important to recognize it as "an ordinary reaction, to a bad situation", so that you can recognize that if things degenerate to "a bad situation" again.. you will feel that same way again.
If you recognize that you have the capability of going through that again, then I think it is easier to head things off earlier,(both on your end, and his!) with less effort. Rather than think it couldnt happen again, so you arent on guard against it




PS: congratulations on 60