MLC Wife- Broken Tree thread locked again

[SirPrizeMe]

I strongly believe that my W loves me very much and all her pain comes from this decision she has made to leave our marriage.
Tree, I believe that. I feel similarly about my decision. She us hurting but cannot bear to reverse herself. She is cutting her nose off to spite her face, and she is cursing me the entire time. (It's all my fault, you see)

I like the exhortations from fish to Tree: get a new life.Definitely a transition point - an opportunity to open up to new things. Could be fun.

By the way, call a lawyer before changing residence arrangements. If you are considering "kicking her to the curb", call a lawyer. If you are planning to leave yourself, call a lawyer first. Especially important if you have kids.

Zebra - about your comments on the other thread -
That's what I meant when I said the SSW was always recruiting... I believe it's because they want to substantiate their feelings that they did the right thing by ending their marriage. It seems the less they did to safe their own situation, the harder they work to get others to join the club and "just move on".
Oh, yea! I know exactly what you mean. My W is now only friends with divorced or divorcing people. When she started building this new batch of friends, I remember her getting really peeved at me when I suggested that we get together with some married couples. They have some sort of subconscious affinity for each other.