So does this mean we're on the mend?

[Michael Mc C]

Yep, each time the OM walked away, it was after about 4 weeks of NC that I really began to see changes in my wife. Each time he came back, however, the counter would reset and she would be hooked harder than she was the previous time.

This is the 3rd time he has walked away and I believe it is for good. Even if he attempted to contact my wife, I am 99% sure that she would have nothing to do with him.

Drinking and going through this type of situation is a terrible idea. October was especially bad for both my wife and I as we deteriorated in a matter of days into people neither of us recognized. After one huge blow up we both agreed that regardless of who is doing what, we couldn't allow something like that happen again. 1) horrible environment for children. 2) there are things that cannot be 'undone'. 3) if we can't speak while sober, we BOTH need to get some help. 4) THE LIST GOES ON

This past weekend was the first time in a long time that I had had this much to drink while my wife was around. The worst part is that we had so much fun that night.

Keeping a positive outlook on your own life is a key ingredient to making it through. I am not through but I believe (hope?) the worst of this is over. It won't be easy but as long it's progress, I don't mind a little more work.