Thanks everyone! I did get the house reasonably clean so H couldn't complain! then went over and painted the rest of the day. H dropped the kids off to paint about 5:30 then said he had to leave right away (of course to meet OW who he hadn't seen in 3 days!). Weird thing is he came home at 7:30 which with driving time (she lives one town over) means he only saw her for one hour which I was surprised about after he hadn't seen her for several days. I don't really care as much as I used to though whether they are getting along or not. I still feel H will be moving out in 2 weeks no matter what; he is determined; so whatever.
I think I've also realized that I think a lot of the names he called me this past year or so: stupid and making me feel bad for being a stay-at-home mom teaching the kids rather than working I think was his way of justifying his affair (first emotional, and then physical) because OW was a working woman, a lawyer and thus in his mind a better woman than I. Not just that but his way of not having as much guilt about the affair, like he couldn't help himself b/c in his mind she was a better woman than I. I don't agree with him, and I know not everyone would, but of course he and OW I think would probably discuss how I should be a working mom, plus discuss her husband and his faults, and bond over that kind of stuff. Karen
