Well, I am sorry to hear about this set back. I might have also jumped into piecing too soon as my H is still looking at apartments and says that he thinks out M is too broken to ever work.
The things she said does sound like typical DR statements. Give her some space and see what happens. I will keep reading your threads regardless of where you post. I am routing for you and your wife.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08