Well, I don't know if my mind is changing about this separation or I am just getting more detached, but a good portion of the time, I really do not want to talk to her. . . . So, do I keep going? Do I re-evaluate and call it quits?
It's hard to be patient and do nothing - but, you've only been separated for about 5 weeks. You've been married almost 14 years. This is a really stressful and confusing time for both of you - not the best conditions for making a decision that will affect the rest of your lives. . . .
I think the challenge of an unwanted separation is to try to figure out how to put the time to good use and to find the opportunities for growth and healing. It seems completely natural that you wouldn't really want to talk with each other right now - there is too much emotional stuff going on. But, you can use the time now for you and for the kids.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
