Here's some wierd, rambling thoughts I'm having as I'm reading through here, so please bear with me!
These thoughts aren't so much to "diagnose" the reasons why these internet situations happen, or to lay blame in ANY direction, but lean more towards getting some ideas about what could be done differently to help curb the beast.
I wonder what kind of role any "intimacy issues" play? If there is a fear of intimacy deep within a person, is it easier to bear your soul to a faceless stranger? (Is that sometimes what we do here?) Do they feel safer, and less exposed to judgement, revealing themselves to someone they don't know? Have they ever tried to reveal themselves this way to their spouse before, or have they been afraid? If they have tried, and been rejected, are they afraid to try again?
How about the fantasy issue? Probably a lot of these situations start out with a person playing out some kind of fantasy, and gets carried away? Do the people that fall trap to internet relationships feel that they can't play the fantasy game with their spouse? Have they ever tried? Do they maybe feel trapped in their role of spouse/parent/provider, etc., and are looking for an escape? If so, have THEY placed themselves in that role, or might they feel that their partner has?
you know, on a first date, you brush your teeth twice, chew with your mouth closed, ask interesting questions and provide provacatively interesting answers to questions you're asked...
I LOVE this analogy! So true!
That's all for now, more later. Gotta run, and go brush my teeth again!
JJ
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