I've been doing a lot of thinking this weekend (the kids were out of town), and I believe that the OW has been influencing my H in his opinions about things. For example, we pulled my son out of school 7 years ago when he was having a horrible time after several years of trying to make school work but not being able to. He is dyslexic/autistic and my younger daughter is as well, so I am homeschooling both (I have a teaching degree). Since he started the affair and wants a divorce, H now wants to put both kids in public school, which is what OW's kid's attend.
What is ridiculous, is H wasn't able to make it in public school - he wound up having to attend a special school for the learning disabled until high school, and his mother also had a terrible time in public school as well and was traumatized (she says) as she is dyslexic as well. But suddenly after being supportive for 7 years, he now feels our kids will be fine in public school.
I believe this is because of OW talking to him and saying divorce will be great: we can put the kids into public school which will be great for them socially, and I can work full time which will be great for me to get out of the house, which is what he is telling me now. She has no idea of what she is talking about as we had tried before and it just didn't work out. I was tutoring my son for hours and he still couldn't do the work, they wanted to retain him when he is already a head taller than the other kids, was crying every day, having stomach aches at school, etc. It just burns me up that he is being influenced by her like this I believe. Karen
