Why do you want so little for yourself and your future?
Let's say she comes back - you already KNOW she will be a bad wife and mother. She's already proven she'll avoid issues and lie to your face (i.e. planning the wedding while clearly planning her "getaway"). If you insist on pursuing a future M with her, PLEASE at least tell me you won't bring kids into this world with her.
I know it hurts, I really do. Please read all the stories here. You have a chance to cut your losses and pursue a GOOD future. You are honestly lucky to find this out now BEFORE it's a huge financial strain (not to mention the added emotional complexity if kids are involved).
Don't you want a good future for yourself?? You do deserve it - please believe that. From what you have told us here, you just plain aren't going to find that with Amy - she thrives too much on the drama. She is not going to change and you are not going to fix her. I think the VERY best thing you can do is work on letting go of her, then figuring out why you considered her a good life partner... then figure out how to FIX that and choose an actual "partner."
About the PM thing - for whatever silly reason the board shows the PM option but it doesn't actually work, except for the admins.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
