I turned my switch off and on about 16,000 times. But at this point, I have been divorced for 7 years so I am very far detached from the emotional aspects of all of this. As for hope, I haven't even given that a thought for some time until you asked. She lives her life and is happy. I live mine (on my own) and am happy. My boys are doing well. And actually, I don't want to have to feed the beast that are her insecurities.