A pointer I got was when W goes on a rampage about this or that to just calmly point out "well no matter what you say or do, etc (whatever she is doing) that i love you and always will no matter how much you are trying to push me out of this marriage."
You know that sounds good but keeping it simple is better. Most of what you reply to the WAS brews in their head and ticks them off. Something short and sweet and not reminding them of what is happening....i.e., " no matter how much you are trying to push me out of this marriage". Don't remind her of this...she already KNOWS this! And about ILY...she knows that too because she has heard that a thousand times from you as she has been working the divorce angle. Just say that you are there for her. That is all you really need to say.
