WAW....now the LBS

[brantacan]

HiC:

thanks so much for sharing with us. i new you were going to the intensive, but didn't realize it just happened.

personally, i think how your H interacted with you when you got home (i.e. inviting you in) and the statement he made about taking more trips like that one, leads me to believe he has some doubts. in addition, he has delayed in filing. just play it cool though and continue to work on the friendship. you guys probably got everything out in the open w/Michele, so I would say to follow his lead and just be a good friend right now. anything more right now, especially after an intense therapy session like that one, might push him further away. being in the LBS role right now, and having been here for approaching 9 months, i have periods of anger and resentment. sometimes I feel like all the effort I put in will amount to nothing and feel like letting go for good; and I'm sure your H reached a point in his DB efforts where he just had to let you go and now feels upset/angry for having gone through all of that. i doubt he's doing it intentionally, but to a degree he is almost being vindictive/spiteful on a subconcious level. Just hang in there though, I sense his heart is softening a bit.

I personally don't like the idea of intentionally attempting to make somebody jealous. If that's your intent and it backfires then you're setting yourself up for disappointment, whereas if you continue to GAL and pursue things that are truly making you happy and doing them for your benefit, you've put yourself in the best possible position to lead a fulfilling life no matter what happens. It just seems controlling to do something with the intent of making somebody jealous and then it just becomes one more potential conflict and issue that will have to be resolved. Anyway, my two cents. You ultimately have to be the one to decide, so just make sure you really think it through.

Thanks again for all of the insight you've provided in this forum. I know you're helping a lot of LBSs.