Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[micoms]

fa,

I think that might be the message my W is starting to see from me, I'm not going to sit in wallow wallow land and wait on her. H finding your list of pros and cons might be the kick in the pants to recommit, you might not wait forever. I think you left out one thing H is feeling, guilt. He will need assurance from you that you can forgive him, forget, probably not.

Your "date" sounds like a loving and fun time together. I'm jealous, but happy for you. My idea of a date would W and I dressing up, a little dinner and some dancing. We used to go dancing at least once a month before she got her job with few weekends off. Nothing like holding your love in your arms and swaying to the music, I loved the slow ones.

I think you missed out on living as you are now, you do your thing and he does his. You need to have something you do together. The only hoop W would have to jump through to come home is to attend Retrouvaille with me.

The R talks I would want to have would only be 10 or 15 minutes long, just kind of a progress report. Tell me what I need to do better, I'll tell you what I need more of.

Now you have a sitter, look out date nights on the way!! Time alone with your H will be important in rebuilding your R and M.

Mike