Anyway, I was surprisingly un-phased by it. I don't really care one way or the other what he decides to do. I have adapted to life without him and we get along perfectly well. Of course the kids miss him a ton, but I can't change the way things are so I just try to make it seem as normal as possible for them.
That is so great the you have detached so completely from H!
And you have given your kids a huge gift. I really respect what you have achieved.
It is so much easier on kids of D when they don't feel like they have two parents that are constantly bickering! It gives them permission to love/interact more freely with both of them w/o feeling like loving/interacting with one amounts to a betrayal of the other.
While my parents are finally getting it, I still find myself in a angst-ridden/stressed when I interlace interacting with both of my parents. It is easier for me to isolated my interactions with one completely from the other.
I noticed that you are planning on being in Chicago sometime this year. I live in the Chicagoland area. If you will have time to socialize while you're in town, let me know. I would love to meet you.
