Sandi, I am happy to see you are back...now, if you could only work on that spamming problem of yours! ( joking)
I agree with the poster who said that the moderators are best served by concentrating on the Newcomers forum. It's an impossible task for the mods to know who's who and people are going to get hurt by all this deleting/banning action.
The posters who have been here a long time have entrenched problems ( I know because I was one of them). Some stick around because of the attachments they make here or a need to give back. The site has worked! Having different opinions is a good thing, and is along Dbing principles ( do a 180, do what works, etc). Sometimes you don't know until you try.
Those who are dealing with an MLC spouse have a very hard task; they are watching the person they love become emotionally out of control, and their family is being threatened. As in the case of severe addiction, the first thing that must be done, in my opinion, is to protect yourself and your children. Following the DBing guidelines and applying logic work best for yourself. My H keeps telling me the same thing when I ask him about the wacky things he said, the turmoil he caused, and the changes in his personality, and that is, that I am trying to apply logic and reason to craziness. Knowing that I seemed somewhat sane was a comfort to him deep in the mist of it all. It is a long process, and I am fortunate because I saved my sanity through being on this board (in SSM) and using Michele's resources. I also had the opportunity to learn about other types of material from various posters. Information is good. I hope this place can return to that kind of atmosphere.
Puppy, The MLC forum doesn't have the same kind of unity on SSM. I didn't know myself that we had unity on SSM until this whole thing happened because we were so opinionated with each other at times there. It's really a tribute to the board that there was so much diversity, yet everyone backed each other up, in the end.
