MLC came to my house...

[Sandyof5]

So a friend talked to my H yesterday and this is what my H told him..

-he has a very very close friendship with someone at work.( he and she are having sex. I have proof.)
-her H also works at same company, however he is retired but is back contracting. He suspects his W is having an affair but doenst know with whom.
-this other woman is H manager and it could cause "problems" as she sets his salary? (oh boy)
-When asked by our friend..what about the family you abandoned he said " I will still be close to girls and see them" (he hasnt been, maybe once a week or every 10 days?)
- when asked about me he said" I dont love her anymore and havent in many years". (sigh)
-he told our friend he will be travleing even more and he is doing great at work and one of the Presidenst of company thinks he is answer to all companys problems.Oh and BTW OW travels alot with him.
-H has gained weight and now has a "beer belly". A couple of people have told me this. My H has always been slim and fit. Im sure this is bothering him but I do know he eats EVERY meal out.
- Said OW was going to get a seperation anyways from her H and she made him leave their home and he is living in an apartment.
-When asked about our finances,which he is dropping the ball on, he said "yeah Im a little behind" (little is an understatement)
- when asked about his plan? He had none and said " well I guess I will file seperation". Then when asked more about it by friend he had no clue regarding the "rules" in our state and friend told him "he couldnt afford it.period"

and so it went..I guess there was more but upshot was/is my H really hasnt a clue what he is doing and is just kinda exsisting "doing his thing" with no plan. just totally immersing himself in his job and this OW and that in a nutshell is about it" No plan. Nothing about our house. No plan about our future or his family. Nadda.

And I believe THAT is what will save us.....

Time and patience a LOT of patience....

in the meantime Sandy will be THEE best person she can be, THEE best mom she can be and I will continue to take this time to grow and learn and help others...but most of all pray for my family and the man I knew my H to once be...

(PS oh and that someone will rat them out at work...anyone else think this would be a good thing as I do?)