W hardly slept last night, so she was tired today, and a bit cranky. But she finished giving the family room a good cleaning, and rearranging. So I complimented that. She did say thank you, so I guess it was a good one? Not a perfect one, but ok. Last night we talked a bit about her job, and how her inexperience is driving her crazy. I think I managed to validate, and understand. So that was good. A long way from meaningful, but good.
Hey Jeff! Having a lovely Sunday so far- thankyou! Hope yours is lovely too!
I think that the tidying compliment must have been a great one, because W thanked you for it- that seems like an improvement on what was happening after previous compliments. (She ignored one earlier in the week, right?) I agree with T- baby steps/scoots.
I also agree that although the conversation around W's job and inexperience may not seem meaningful it's great that W shares her insecurity. Lots of women build walls around their insecurities, so she trusts you enough to discuss hers. Validating her sounds like a good approach to that, and coupled to the consistent compliments I bet she's secretly thinking 'Whoa, something's different!'
What you're doing is working!
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
