Things are really getting better for me personally. I still do get down on occasions, but then I think of all the positives to look forward to. I think (like u) I am more angry at the way it happened than the actual break up....if u know what I mean.
I don't think I will get any closure until XW concedes the truth to her family and friends in regards to why she did the things she did (keeping OM a secret for several months and blaming me for everything). I asked her a while ago if she will ever let me get closure by telling me the truth, and she said "Maybe someday".
On a brighter note
I am off "house hunting" this morning with my sister. I have found a beautiful place on the Northern Beaches (North Sydney), and you pretty much have the waves hitting your back door I am keeping it a secret from DD (she is a real water baby, and loves the beach), she will really freak out when she walks into her new bedroom with the beach outside her window.
Work is going great, a few of the cases that I have been involved with are going to trial (always exciting stuff to get a result). DD is doing really well at school. Would u believe she has taken up Cricket as a sport.........
Still "consolidating" my life before I decide to start a new R. My morals and values are the same as yours, I won't be doing anything until the D is legal and I have settled into my new place, and my new "lifestyle".
Apart from going through a divorce, everything else is great.....go figure
Hope, no matter how awful it feels, it can never get as bad as what we have gone through........and can only get better......much better.
I've been on before and said this, but I have to say it again. You sound wonderful. Again, I know there will be times when the pain probably comes back, but you just sound great.
I hope everything goes through for you on the house. What an incredible surprise for your daughter!
My best to you......
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
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Andy, You do sound great....much better than me. I've had sort of backslide lately. I'm trying to get past it all and move on...but some days it's just hard. I'm really happy that things are going well for you. Take care.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I think the pain will always be there, but in time it will decrease in strength.
I think my pain is mainly to do with DD. She has always been closer with me than XW, and has told me that she would prefer to live with me "more", than with XW. But in all honesty, with XW's plans, and with my work, I can't see that happening. Thats the thing that really hurts the most.
But as my family keep telling me, the time DD and I spend together is more "productive" and contains so much more quality than when she is with XW. XW needs to surround herself with other people when she is with DD, whilst I enjoy just spending one on one time, doing things we both enjoy.
I have been watching the Super 14's. I'm going to watch the NSW Waratah's v ACT Brumbies this Friday night in Sydney. They reckon it will be at capacity (over 80,000).
England seem to be doing okay, always good to beat the frogs. But I can't believe how well Wales are going, go figure.
Don't worry about the backsliding, I have done it heaps of times. And don't put too much pressure on yourself to "get better" quickly. U backslide as much as u want.
It is all part of the healing process.
There will always be pain there, but with time, that pain will lessen in strength. You will recover, regardless of how you feel now.
DD loved the unit on the beach, and I ended up buying it. Settlement date is 15 May. Really looking forward to the move (Saf, I will add the pictures on Facebook if u want to have a squiz).
Divorce papers are at my solicitors ready to sign. Will sign them on Tuesday (public holiday on Monday). Ready to close this chapter of my life. Will be a single man on Tuesday afternoon
Going to see Harry Connick Jnr at the Opera House tomorrow night, looking forward to it.
Had an excellent Easter today with my family and DD (XW spent the whole weekend with OM).
Funny enough, life is pretty good regardless of what has happened. Sure, we do have our moments, but life really does go on regardless. I've stopped blaming XW and OM for my sitch, as it doesn't really "matter" who is at fault. Why get sick and angry over things you cannot control.
