SF, Yes, it takes an awful lot of faith and courage to break away from what they've been use to for a period of time. The withdrawal is no different than that from drugs, alcohol or gambling.
SF, you are such a warm, loving, compassionate and patient woman. He's finally opening his eyes to see all of these wonderful qualities that he shoved deep down a while back. The dropping of the crumbs of friendship is doing the job. I'm very happy to see his finally admit that he's glad you are his wife. This is a huge step for him.
Spring is just around the corner, I do hope that w/new beginnings/life, he'll finally be able to take that one huge step and come home.
Enjoy your week!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.