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[BEAUTYandWAH]

Joie!

We went to McDonald and pet shop today. We spent good one hour looking around animals. And then, SIL hanged with us most of the day. Yup we watched movie but mostly we talked..

I found out SIL met OW once while I've gone for home... One night, SIL called my H what he was up to and H invited her to a bar where H and OW were drinking. It was only after SIL got there, H told who he was with the night. SIL decided to stick around. She told OW that family will not accept her because everyone got hurted by all this you and H did.. don't expect we will open hand to you. SIL told me that OW seemed surprized and OW talked about how much she loves my H.

I was sooo mad for H to trick his sister to be there. What was he thinking..? hoping his sister would have a great time to finally meet her? After all, I find out how my H can be ignorant and selfish not only toward to me but his sister.

SIL and I talked in the length. I told her that it is not fair for her to be in the middle, after all H is her brother. She said to me, "he is my brother but you are my sister, not just legally. when you married to him, you became my sister and I will always love you. I want you to come to me or my family when you need because we are family"
also said, 'I always love my brother but I don't have to like him.. he is a**h***'

So, while H was gone, I had chance to assure my presence in the family and I will have support from my in-laws. I don't like he is out side of family circle but according to SIL, he is doing to himself and they feel that my kids and I have rights to in the family.

Great feeling to have a support.. because I need one.

LRT..
I have been working on 180, setting goals etc. Now, it is time to love him from far away. I will not answer his call or text unless necessary (I will text him when about kids). No more sex... No more crying/mad/fighting/confronting/talking about D or R. I will not talk about my daily personal activities, only about kids and weather Smile 24/7..don't let him have a bad days. I will be happy while he is strugling with small things to whatever. My life is good. Always will be.

So he is with OW for the weekend and I have been texting him about kids that they miss him soo much. He was on the phone with them and I made them talk in the length (on purpose..) so I can drive OW crazy.. I knew OW was next to him so I told H that S2 is trying to sing a song for him but H needed to help him. So, I requested to sing ABC song for s2 and of course H did it.

well, i have no idea what OW may think but I am sure OW is jelous someone but her get full attention when she is still there. LOL

Beauty