Recent convo with H in the context of working out our summer schedules and also figuring out when the kids will go to camp:
Me: So what are your summer travel plans? H: I'm going to a conference in Tel Aviv in June and then I have an opportunity to participate in a conference in Budapest, but if I go I'll miss the triplets birthday. I know you can't council me about whether I should go or not. Me: True. Of course the kids will be disappointed if you're not here, but you know that. H: Yes, I know, I'll just have to think a bout it and let you know.
Of course his "participation" in the conference in Budapest really means whatsherface will be there and he wants to be there with her. This isn;t a job opportunity or him giving a paper of course (though she may be), otherwise he'd have no trepidation whatsoever about missing the kids' b-day (their tenth by the way--in July).
Anyway, I was surprisingly un-phased by it. I don't really care one way or the other what he decides to do. I have adapted to life without him and we get along perfectly well. Of course the kids miss him a ton, but I can't change the way things are so I just try to make it seem as normal as possible for them.
So just to catch you all up to speed: Mitch has been in Boston since the fall of '07 and comes back to see the kids once a month. They have flown there once and will fly there again next week to visit him. He will be back for 2 weeks in June and then he leaves again for Tel Aviv and then maybe Budapest (depending on what his soul searching tells him). Then he will be back for Fall semester 2008 and then in January of 2009 he will be in Berlin for the Spring semester.
He has mentioned trying to fly the kids to Germany for two weeks when he is there next year which I think will be a fantastic experience for the kids--we'll see if it all materializes.
Anywho, that's the story from the nation's midsection. Love, Althea
