But she finished giving the family room (we don't have what you would call a lounge, just a big room that serves for the formal and informal, works well for a family with four boys!) a good cleaning, and rearranging. So I complimented that. She did say thank you, so I guess it was a good one? Not a perfect one, but ok.
Sounds GOOD!!! Let's look at the glass half full! She said thank you!
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Last night we talked a bit about her job, and how her inexperience is driving her crazy. I think I managed to validate, and understand. So that was good. A long way from meaningful, but good.
This actually sounds kind of big to me. She's opening up to you about her sense of inadequacy? That's kind of deep. I wouldn't talk about that with just anyone I might be misinterpreting from afar, but it could be more meaningful than you think.
This might sound weird... but sometimes I try to DB with my Mom. We used to be super close, but now aren't. I'm trying to fix that. Last night I had a 39 minute long (!!) conversation with her talking about, seriously, WHATEVER. A lot of food talk. Recipe talk. Farmer's market talk. I think I used to believe that we needed to have "deep talk" to connect. But at the end of the talk she said, "I am happy to talk to you." Even though we weren't really "talking about anything meaningful."
Even though I am a WOMAN, sometimes I forget that for WOMEN, sometimes just talking period is really meaningful. And then it opens the way for true heart to heart deep disclosure that is so beautiful and awesome.
Jeff, it could happen to you! Keep your eye on the prize!!! Keep listening and validating!!!!!!!!!
I might be misinterpreting from afar, but it could be more meaningful than you think. 
