Hi Sandi, Thanks again for the pointer. After a couple of the daily emails, I will say that I don't agree with absolutely everything that is said - but there is some truth to a lot of it, and it does give some very interesting food for thought.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Just finished listening to the audio book of "Eat, Pray, Love", which I know several people around here have read. I had a real love/hate relationship with it. I enjoyed the author's journey of self discovery - but the early sections, describing her descent into MLC Craziness and abandonment of her H, were pretty hard to take. I just wanted to slap her - hey, lady, don't you know what you did to that poor guy dropping the bomb on him? And now you can't figure out why he is angry and can't just forgive you and end it as friends? Hmmmph. Stoopid aliens.
I had the same reaction to the book. On the one hand, I absolutely loved it. I loved her discovery of herself, I loved the authenticity, and I loved the writing. On the other hand, I wanted to smack her upside her head. I felt so bad for her husband...and I wished that he had found DBing so he'd had a chance. That part was sad. Still...I have to say it's one of my favorite books of the past year.
Glad to see you and W are still working on the M. Do you ever wish she'd found DB for herself? In some ways I think the LBS carries the weight of the R because we know better...and it's easy to feel frustrated and even a little resentful. But that's just my experience...just wondering about yours since we entered this crazy world about the same time.
One of these days I'd like to meet you, Jen, and a whole slew of others. We're veterans of a crazy war....
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
I had the same reaction to the book. On the one hand, I absolutely loved it. I loved her discovery of herself, I loved the authenticity, and I loved the writing. On the other hand, I wanted to smack her upside her head. I felt so bad for her husband...and I wished that he had found DBing so he'd had a chance. That part was sad. Still...I have to say it's one of my favorite books of the past year.
Thanks for the validation. Part of me feels like a jerk for cr@pping all over someone's Amazing Story of Growth, but yeah, I just want to hunt down her poor LBS and buy him a round of drinks.
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
Glad to see you and W are still working on the M. Do you ever wish she'd found DB for herself? In some ways I think the LBS carries the weight of the R because we know better...and it's easy to feel frustrated and even a little resentful. But that's just my experience...just wondering about yours since we entered this crazy world about the same time.
Oh, yeah, absolutely! I do see W continuing to make baby steps, but occasionally it feels like "Well, I guess this is as good as it gets and I might as well make the best of it" rather than a Grand Re-Commitment. And dammit, don't I deserve better than that?
But most of the time, I can take that and be happy for now. Time and Patience, right? I keep in mind that I'm not perfect either, and as long as there's progress, even verrrrrrry slooooooow progress, I am able to keep my attitude positive and my mind in the game.
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
One of these days I'd like to meet you, Jen, and a whole slew of others. We're veterans of a crazy war....
The feeling is mutual - you are very best friends I have never met - I could not ask for better!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
I haven't posted directly to you before, even though I know we have 'met' on some threads!!! I hope you don't mind me joining in.
Have you read 'The Passionate Marriage' or 'Resurrecting Sex' ?
They might give you a slightly broader view on hotting things up in the bedroom department. I find myself in the same position as yourself but with us it is me that can go LD.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Thanks for chiming in. I have read PM, and found it VERY helpful in understanding what has happened. Now the trick is to implement the changes it suggests!
I have not heard of RS before - but I will be happy to add it to my reading list. Thank you for the recommendation!
Rob
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
W has an opportunity to go on a biz trip in a few weeks, which will take her to both London and Tokyo. She's hesitating at going a day early to see some of London - I am gently urging her to do so. (She's nervous it will look bad to the client, but I can't see how, as we would by paying for the extra day.)
During the same time, D15 will have her spring break. I am going to take her to see some of my relatives, and to 'do the town' in Chicago. Just a short get-away, but it will be nice to spend some real quality time with her - she tends to gravitate much more towards Mom these days.
So, a little GALing for both of us, but with plenty of mutual support and encouragement. Good stuff.
Right now, we are buried under lots of snow - have shoveled the driveway 4 times since last night, and it is still falling. Making sure I do useful stuff around the house, not just vegetate on my butt (as D15 is doing!) Teenagers...!
Have a great weekend, y'all!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Part of me feels like a jerk for cr@pping all over someone's Amazing Story of Growth, but yeah, I just want to hunt down her poor LBS and buy him a round of drinks.
