Tipper, My H is also an alcoholic. It is sad. It's sad because you just want to help them, but you can't. It's their battle. I fought for my M after my H's A, but sometimes I think perhaps I should have let him go. But then I remember that I do love him and I just can't abandon him.
I found a site called soberrecovery.com. It's for alcoholics (or other substance abusers) as well as family and friends. They have a very active online community like this site. I joined months ago but didn't post until recently because I was scared, ashamed, etc. You may want to check it out. Their articles are very helpful, too.
I'm sure he backed off today because of the intimacy last night. I think he will call, just give him time, and don't pursue him.
