WAW....now the LBS

[HOPEFULinCALI]

PH,

I am so happy to hear your positive attitude and outlook. Hang in there.

Your encouragement as well as the other's here really helps me to maintain a positive outlook!

So you each had individual sessions with her?

After lunch we each met with her for about 45min and then came back together then she gave us her thoughts. We ended about an hour early (good thing because we made it to the gate as they were boarding) because there wasn't much discussion from us when we came back together. If I have learned anything I know that nothing I say will change his mind. He was the second to meet with her and I wanted Michele's words to be the last that he would remember. I didn't want to risk a negative interaction.

When we got home I went to get into my car to go home and he asked, "Aren't you coming inside?". I did in part to see my baby girl; a little yorkie named Ginger. We talked about her during the session and I started to cry. Anywho, I digress. Once in the house I sat him down, thanked him for coming with me to the intensive, and began to tell him what Michele suggested. He seemed willing to really work on the friendship. As I left he gave me a hug, a kiss on the cheek, and said that we should take these trips more often.

One thing that did baffled me is that he asked me to stay in the home that we own together when he goes to the CHP academy in September. Um if you file won't we be divorced by then, was the thought that crossed my mind. Also he gave no good reason why the divorce hasn't completed if he filed in September as he told Michele. Yup, the papers are still in his glove compartment as of last night, unfiled.

Another thing that I discussed yesterday was making him think I am "up to something". In otherwords make him jealous without actually dating someone. I suppose this would be one of those "act as if" situations.

Any suggestions PH or anyone?