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[tomcat65]

I think your right ken,not relly putting much stock in it though.I think she is getting a little curious about whats going on,never was the patient type.Kerry,yes i am getting much better at the as is very good point!Also im not even thinking about why she was mad,whatever,is what im thinking. Thanks for the insight Tom

[addie]

You did great. You acted as if and were in a happy mood - you didn't react to her anger. Keep that up! Try to detach from her rollercoaster as much as possible by focusing on yourself and the kids.

[tomcat65]

Funny question,yesterday i was doing fine have been for four days.Today Im a total wreck.Worse Ive been in awhile feel total dispair,mind wont stp racing,tried the stop sign iread about,isnt working today.Anybody else have this happen to them out of the blue?

[kturnernc]

Yeah man, it happens. We are all here for you. Vent if needed. Get out and do something silly. Go by a ball and bounce it or something to take your mind off things. Think about how silly you look... smile!!

Just smiling feels better! Keep it up man, you are making good strides.

[kturnernc]

Glad the ball bouncing helped!! Now, look at it this way, anytime you feel down, think of the stupid ball. I think you will smile.

I am picturing a red ball with a yellow stripe.

[tomcat65]

Tanks ken good idea,it already made me smile.Went out to the store this mourning,wife was working at the other store,so much wanted to stop in,to tell her what was going on wiyh kids.But I didnt just drove right by.It wasnt easy.Its still real weird that she doesnt care about the kids!!!!But I did what i had to do.Sorry did just need to vent.Thanks a bunch. Tom

[tomcat65]

Boy,Ill tell you this no contact thing is a real bitch!!!I know Im doing the right thing but where does everybody get the patience?Its just still really confusing at times but Im staying on course.I still have hope,but sometimes it just comes and goes.Guess im really looking for answers that nobody has but wife!Go figure.

[kturnernc]

Just keep your mind busy, buddy. Trust me. It is still very hard to be separated for me. There are times I am simply pacing my apartment. But then i go out on the porch and look at the sky. Then just start thinking of whatever comes to mind. One thing leads to another and boom, I am not thinking of her.

It just takes time. It does suck. But watch some stupid mind numbing movie, it may help. Exercise. Vent here. Anything.

We are with you man. And we all have the same thoughts. It popped into my mind yesterday that I truly miss my wife, but there is nothing I can do about this other than be a better person. Keep going.

[brantacan]

TC65,

In response to: "Funny question,yesterday i was doing fine have been for four days.Today Im a total wreck. Worse Ive been in awhile feel total dispair,mind wont stp racing,tried the stop sign i read about,isnt working today.Anybody else have this happen to them out of the blue?"

I've been separated about 8.5 months, and believe me things will improve with respect to how you handle your emotions, but I still have these days. Just fewer of them.

Like kt said, you've gotta keep your mind occupied. for me the gym, playing soccer again, reaching out to friends, watching comedies, and reading self help type books has helped tremendously. Part of this is GAL.

Despair and self pity are not attractive traits; I constantly have to remind myself of this. Be confident and regain some independence. There are times you'll just have to force yourself to get into this mindset, but eventually this will lead to more good days than bad.

Hang in there! We're all pulling for you!

[kturnernc]

So... what is up Tom? Ay updates? Feeling better?

I hope that you got out of that funk. I was thinking of that dang ball again the other day and actually laughed. It IS silly!