peace, Thanks. We have been physically close for most of the S. Even then, this is the FIRST time he has ever outright offered to give me a back massage. And he really did put good effort into it. It was obvious to me that he did it lovingly.
It wasn't always this way. My H tried very hard to stay away from me for the first few months, even though I could tell it was hurting him to stay away.
Your H isn't himself now. Otherwise, he won't be the way he is now. It seems he's having a rough time and is not happy anyway. He's probably not seeing things clearly so I hope you don't take his distancing personally. It's hard not to because it's just natural (at least for me) to wonder if it's our fault when our H treats us badly.
