The ONLY thing you can do is detatch (easier said than done). Have you noticed nothing you are doing is improving the sitch? It's because nothing you can do will improve the sitch.
If I had this to do all over again the one thing I know I would do differently is I would have detached COMPLETELY in the beginning. No contact = no fighting. No contact = no pain (for you). No contact = no feeling used.
Be with your kiddos. They need you now more than you will ever know. You will get a blessing out of this hell if you plan to spend as much time as possible with them. I have bonded with my kids more than I could ever have dreamed. I now take them whenever it is possible, even for WAW to do her thing. We now have shared many wonderful times together that I know they will never forget. They PREFER my place (an 800 sq ft apt) to W's (our 2600 sq ft house).
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
