We had our first "Kids Turn" parenting class today. When I filled out the forms it asked for primary language and I put down Thai for my W but mentioned that she spoke english just fine. So in typical government fashion, they brought in a Thai interpreter which W thought was ridiculous. When she said hello to the interpreter in Thai (Sawadee Ka), he did not know what she was saying. Turns out the interpreter was from Laos. He still tried to do his job (showing W how to sit in a chair) even though my W and him were not speaking the same native language.
They ended up splitting all spouses apart into 2 different classes and the kids had there own 5-9 year old class. This first class was a waste of time because it was all talking about required attendence and introducing each other. They did give us some homework which was to think of things we can do on our own as individuals to keep our minds off the divorce / seperation. Three more classes on Saturdays this month and we get our certificate.
W took S7 for tonight and I have D5 because I am taking her skiing early tomorrow. Next weekend, we will probably reverse that so I can take S7 skiing. Even though we have a parenting plan, W and I both are flexible and are not following it strictly.
One thing W and I both agreed on in our talk today was that divorce / seperation is bad because each of us lose half the time we normally get to be with the kids.
So my plan remains the same. Just keep being friends with W, have fun with my kids when I have them, work on myself and do things I enjoy on my free time and wait patiently for W to come to a decision on her own time.
One of the biggest things I have to work on is the hurt I have when the kids blurt out things they do with the OM. It is so hard to hear that another man is doing things with my kids that I used to do. I wonder how W would feel if this situation were reversed.
